Placing an ad in our site is free; however,
it shouldn't be done off the cuff.
Successful online dating starts with the
first moment someone sees your profile. It's
the most important moment in online dating.
Each ad should be well thought out and reflect
just what you are seeking. Be honest and straight-forward.
Don't lie to the members of the site and pretend
that you are someone that you are not, because
someone looking for who you really are will
miss you! This wastes your time and everyone
A picture is worth a thousand words. The
ads of people who submit pictures get approximately
12 times the hits of those without pictures.
You do not have to submit a picture with your
ad, but it might be worth considering. At
Basic Instincts Connections, we give you the
opportunity to upload several large images
and one preview image with your ad.
When you receive a response to your ad, it
is either going to spark your interest, or
not interest you at all. Even if the e-mail
doesn't light your fire, it is always common
courtesy to send a response, even if it is
to say "Thanks, but no thanks."
After all, this person was interested enough
in you to send you an email, so take it as
a compliment and send back an acknowledgement
that the email was received. If the email
does light your fire, then respond to it and
Responding to an Ad
When you are searching our database, you
need to realize that not everyone will be
responding and not everyone will be interested
in what you have to offer. So it is a good
idea to respond to more than one ad at once.
There can be a certain feeling out process
to make sure this is a right rendezvous for
all parties. While it can work, don't go overboard
with your first email. Unless specifically
asked, don't go into long tirades about what
a good lover you are and what you will do
with him/her/them when you meet. Try and introduce
yourself and let the advertisers know a little
bit about you. Just as someone putting in
an ad should submit a picture, so should you
send a picture when you respond to the ad.
Once you receive a response to your email
it is time to start giving more information.
This may be a good time to talk on the phone
to get a better feel for the person. Then,
when you feel comfortable, it is time for
Meeting your Date
The first meeting is a big step. This should
be fun, but also bear in mind that safety
is an issue. That is why we recommend that
the initial meeting be at a public place and
either during the lunch hour or right after
work. If things go well, you can arrange for
an immediate, more intimate setting, or you
can schedule one at a more convenient time
This should be the norm, but unfortunately
this sometimes gets lost in the shuffle. The
first thing to remember is that NO MEANS NO.
Just because you meet doesn't not mean that
he/she/they have to like you and want to take
things further. Things may change after a
face-to-face meeting, so if the other party
wants to break it off, do so. This is not
a personal insult. Just smile, accept it and
go on to the next one.
If you are invited to the other party's home,
remember that you are a guest. You don't live
there. Dress appropriately for the situation,
bring a gift, don't put your feet up on the
coffee table, etc. Just because you are entering
into a possible relationship doesn't mean
you have to be an idiot. Good manners go a
long way in breaking through those first-time
jitters. If you respect the other party, just
as you would at work or school, you will do
fine, and you will never lack new dating opportunities.
Word gets around, and the fools suffer while
the good ones are in high demand!