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No need for the boring introduction! In order to have good SPECTACULAR sex, one has to be in good health and even more free of inhibitions so here are some pointers for starts to eliminate some of the myths behind sticking it to ya!

Men are always ready for sex:

Socially, men are the demons of sex. They always want it, they never get enough, and they are always ready for it just in case some willing female happens to jump upon their path. But this myth neglects the part that men are human beings and aren’t always in the mood. Further more, men don’t always want to be in the mood. There are many reasons for men not want to have sex, including stress, illness, fatigue, and just not being in the mood. Men should not be afraid to say no sometimes, but they should make sure that they explain to their women because they will be confused.

Smaller breast are more sensitive

There is a scientific fact that on average, human breasts receive the same amount of sensory neurons regardless of their size. The logical conclusion would be that, due to its density, smaller breasts are more sensitive to touch. The truth is, breast—particularly the nipple—are sensitive the majority of the time for most women. The sensitivity of the breast morphs throughout her cycle: at some points her breasts will be larger or smaller, tender, sometimes painful, and sometimes more sexually sensitive.

Ejaculation affect athletic performance

It is an old Eastern philosophy that ejaculating drains the male body of its “life force,” bringing down its testosterone levels. This “life force” gives men energy, and testosterone gives them more aggression. The myth pertains to logic, but the reason you feel sleepy after ejaculation is because of the chemicals that are triggered during the ejaculation process are sleep inducing. Regarding the lowered testosterone levels; scientific studies have found that having sex actually increases testosterone levels. In fact, three months of abstaining makes a man’s testosterone levels drop to that of a child’s, which does not bode well for the increased aggressing or energy necessary for the edge in some sports. Overall, if you want to do it, go for it. If you find it affects your performance, just don’t do it the next time.

Women can only have orgasms through vaginal intercourse

This is definitely not true but it's a myth that has caused us to take women's sexual needs for granted for a long time. This myth actually started with Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis, who had recognized that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile and believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms.
The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis, for example.
As a result of Freud's determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure. Only in recent decades has society begun talking openly about the women's right to enjoy sex and to reach orgasm in whatever manner worked for her.

Men don't have a G-Spot

Both men and women have their own G-spots. In the case of men, the G-spot is actually the prostate gland. Unfortunately, it is a little more difficult to access than a woman’s because it can only be reached through the anus. A finger is inserted in the anus, making its way to the direction to the man’s bellybutton, until it feels a lump about the size of a nut. Stimulating the prostate in this way is also very healthy because it floods the prostate with fresh blood that contains plenty of oxygen and nutrients.

Men can't have an orgasm without ejaculating

Men are just as capable as women are of having multiple orgasms even without ejaculation. It’s just that it is more difficult to attain it. There are a couple of methods: One is by effectively blocking the ejaculation fluid from escaping by holding the base of the penis just before ejaculation. The other is by erotic prostate massage. An orgasm from massaging the prostate is far more intense than a normal orgasm, and is felt throughout the entire body. The best way to experiment with prostate massage is to buy a specially-made sex toy.

Orgasms is All what sex is about

We are trained to believe that the point of having sex is to have an orgasm. The orgasm is often the first question that gets asked when someone relates a sexual experience to a friend. In reality, good sex is good because both people have a great time, not because both are totally physically spent by amazing orgasms. Having a mind-blowing orgasm can be great, but they do not define fabulous sex. If any one misses out on the orgasm it is usually the woman, which is bad news if the man makes a habit out of it, but not essential for a good session. Women do not enjoy fake orgasms.

Women want multiple orgasms

The rise of the sexual revolution perpetuated the belief that sex is all about the satisfaction of women after so many years of the opposite. But just because women can have more than one orgasm doesn't mean they want more than one. One is usually fine; two may be great, but any more than that could push the boundaries of wear and tear, and boredom as well. Unless the woman wants it and asks for more, after one or two, she probably feels kind of like men do after they finish: tired.

"Blue Balls" is just something guys make up

Blue balls, or painful vasocongestion, is actually a very real condition. It can also occur in women, but this is not as common. Vasocongestion occurs during arousal and blood flow increases to the genitals, exerting pressure on the blood vessels and surrounding tissue. After orgasm or ejaculation, the blood flow decreases and the pressure is released. But if orgasm or ejaculation doesn't occur, the pressure can cause pain or discomfort. This is not, however, a reason for a guy to coerce you into having or finishing sexual activity. Blue balls will neither kill nor maim a man.

Only women fake orgasms

I think its important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. About one-fifth of men admitted that they have faked an orgasm with a partner. Their reasons for faking are the same as women's: they don't want their partners to be disappointed. Orgasms don't always come easily in a partnership. Sure, when we masturbate we can probably get off every time because we know our bodies and we know what works. Our sexual partners have to learn these things over time and, most importantly, with our help. Again, faking orgasms is not the answer for either sex. It just complicates the issue and prevents both partners from having a truly fulfilling sexual encounter.

Penis Size Matters

Everyone always goes on about big penises and how great they are. A big tool is a sign of manliness. If a man has one, he is undoubtedly the envy of any man with a penis that is even slightly smaller. However, sex does not only involve the penis. Every man should take time to learn to figure out how to work their penises and the rest of their body to the best orgasmic advantage. A couple could use different positions to make love and have a greater chance of hitting the right spots. The clitoris, G-spot, and entrance to the vagina are a woman’s hot spots, but do not forget that some women do not orgasm by penetration alone. Also, a really huge penis can be very painful for women because it hits the cervix. The best way for men to ensure a woman’s sexual satisfaction is to get really good at other things, like oral sex and using your hands.

Homosexual Fantasies makes gay or bisexual

Our society is still fairly homophobic. Because it is reasonably new thing to have to deal with, it can be very confusing for people to have homosexual fantasies. In reality, we all fantasize about playing around with another man or woman does not make you gay; it actually makes you curious. Acting on fantasies is different than just having them and only you will know the real story. Homosexual fantasies aren’t really talked about for fear of being labeled as gay, and that is not about to change.

A period is safe sex

This is far from the truth. Not only without protection, (a condom) one can contract a STD and which can lead to lifetime regrets if left untreatable...and even death.The popular belief is that if a couple has sex during the female’s menstruation period, she can’t get pregnant, since the period disposes off the woman’s egg and the next one is far away. However, this myth is false because the sperm can survive in the vagina for up to seven days, and an egg can survive for three. If the woman has irregular periods and ovulates closer to her period, the egg and sperm transit times get crossed. In a normal 28-day cycle, ovulation occurs two weeks before the next period. So, unless the couple knows the woman’s cycle very intimately, they should not play with fire.
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