What is anal sex?
Anal sex is a sexual activity where the penis
is inserted into the bottom, and is often
called "rectal sex". Many people
believe that anal sex is the preserve of gay
men but this is not generally the case. It
is estimated that a quarter to a third of
heterosexual couples occasionally include
anal sex in their love making.
The majority of people's anal love making
experiences are positive but we have listed
below some common sense steps you should take
when first trying anal sex with your partner:
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Make sure
as a couple you are both in the mood, but
also especially the person who will be having
the penis placed in their anus. There are
not many people who when feeling tense and
stressed want to indulge in anal sex. You
both need to be in a relaxed atmosphere.
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Choose the
right position - "doggy style"
anal intercourse is the preferred way for
many, though spooning (you lay on your side
with your partner behind you) is known to
be intimate and pleasurable for both.
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It takes time
to build trust, without trust between you
both then you might want to consider something
else as one painful anal experience can
ruin that. Ensure you both know and understand
what you are getting into. The more you
trust each othe, the more enjoyable anal
sex will be for both of you.
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Relaxation
is important. Rushing into anal intercourse
is not a wise idea. We recommend that you
both play with each other and allow him
time to stroke your bottom to help relax
your anus and the sphincter.
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Lubricate,
lubricate, lubricate. Use plenty and keep
lubrication to hand when you need more.
It's highly likely you'll have to use more
than you think you would.
Is Anal sex safe?
Taken steadily and with care, anal intercourse
is safely possible for many couples looking
to take part in this sexual activity. Ensure
the anus is clean and the bowel is empty (this
prevents risk of the receiving partner passing
faeces during sex).
The skin around the sphincter is a highly
sensitive muscle so care must be taken to
gently stretch it (have the receiving partner
relax the muscle as much as possible) to accommodate
an erect penis.
The inserting partner must be gentle, using
plenty of care and lubrication - pushing harder
is not the answer when first trying anal sex.
Allow the receptive partner time to relax
their anus' sphincter and with time and practice
this will become easier.
Anal intercourse is a pleasurable sexual activity
for many couples, it can be for you too if
done gently and carried out with care.
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