Performing cunnilingus (Muff Diving) can be
one of the most wonderful things you can do
for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired,
sexy, and has the potential to give her an
exceptional orgasm. Many women prefer it to
intercourse, and for those who require a large
amount of clitoral stimulation, it is the
easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women
expect it these days and men who perform great
cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered
There is little more exciting to a woman
than to know that her partner finds her delicious;
meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell and
feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same
time, there is little less exciting to a woman
than to think that you don’t like the
taste and smell of her most intimate region.
If your partner has a smell that is more than
you can handle, or she doesn’t feel
comfortable with you down there (thinking
you won’t like the smell), suggest taking
a nice hot shower or bath together. See the
Bathing and Showering section for more details
on how to make that bathroom experience a
whole lot of fun for the both of you.
Before reading further, you may want to get
acquainted with this region of her body by
reading the erogenous zones section and having
a look at the diagrams.
Remember, there is almost nothing you can
do that will feel bad (so long as you are
gentle), so relax! Any licking and sucking
of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris,
or anal area should feel great to your partner.
Also, once you find something that works,
don’t stray too far away from it unless
you are moving to something that works better,
or if you are teasing.
Leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed,
try licking her from vaginal entrance up to
her clit and following the outer edges of
her vagina along both sides. Repeating this
technique going up and down and vice versa
can be a great opener.
While holding the two parts together with
your lips, run your tongue between the inner
and outer labia one side at a time.
The majority of a woman’s nerve endings
in her vagina are around the opening and within
the first couple of inches inside. Target
them with your tongue by inserting it into
her vaginal opening. Techniques are pretty
limited due to the length of your tongue,
but try moving your tongue in and out, as
well as in circles around the inside of her
Spread her outer vaginal lips with your fingers.
With your tongue pointed, gently flick your
tongue around her clitoris. Feel free to roam,
but keep coming back to her clitoris, as it
is the most sensitive. This drives some women
wild, and others find it to too intense. When
stimulating her clit make sure to start out
gently if you aren’t sure how she likes
it. When you try this, pay attention to whether
those moans are ecstasy or pain.
The following techniques should not be introduced
until your partner is really hot (i.e., very
wet). These are more intense techniques, and
may be too intense for some women, even when
The Clitoris Suck
Expose her clitoris by spreading her lips
and lightly pull back her hood. With her clitoris
exposed, give it a quick little suck; pulling
it into your mouth briefly and letting it
go. This is a lot like licking a bit of cake
batter off of your pinky. This feels incredible,
and is a fine thing to do if you feel like
tormenting her – but don’t overdo
it! We recommend not using your teeth nor
using heavy suction when starting out.
The Clitoris Hold
Take her exposed clit into your mouth and
gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking
your tongue over and around it. This can be
done very lightly or very aggressively, and
combined with fingering, will usually rapidly
produce an intense orgasm.
The Tongue Tube
Roll your tongue into a tube (if you cannot
do this, forget about it because it is genetic
and you can't learn it). This technique works
best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your
tongue into a tube around her clitoris. Slide
it back-and-forth; in effect, your tongue
is doing something similar to a woman's vagina
around a man's penis. This is likely to bring
any woman over the edge to an explosive orgasm.
Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet
on her genitals. This works surprisingly well
as your tongue is always moving in different
directions. Learn her favorite letters and
the orders that work the best!
A good lover’s hands never stop moving,
so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage
her thighs while you perform.You can also
try using a wide variety of flavored gels,
oils, and lubricants. Some of these products
heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra
Having a mint in your mouth while you are
performing cunnilingus can also improve your
results. The mint, as long as it is not too
weak or strong, can create a very intense
tingling sensation to enhance your performance.
To be able to perform for extended periods
of time, there are a number of exercises that
can be used to strengthen the muscles in your
mouth. Here are a few tongue exercises and
positions for performing cunnilingus:
Stick your tongue
as far out of your mouth as possible, and
then try to touch your nose. Once you are
in this position, hold the same muscle groups
still and begin moving your tongue around.
Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise,
counterclockwise, and up and down.
With a loose
jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously
trying to keep your tongue in constant contact
with the top and bottom your mouth. Once you
are in this position, practice moving your
tongue in and out of your mouth. For the more
advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed
and circling your tongue around inside of
it, while of course, maintaining position.
An extension to the advanced exercise is trying
to dissolve a lifesaver held in your teeth
from the inside out.
Stick your tongue
straight out of your mouth, trying to keep
your tongue flat and relaxed. Slowly, while
holding the position, practice curling the
wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and
side-to-side. Practice in five sets of ten,
holding each move for 2 seconds.
Keep your tongue
relaxed and open your mouth. Move your tongue
in and out of your mouth forwards and in both
directions. Practice in five sets of twenty.