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Foreplay Guide for Men

Don't rush in
The main thing men forget is that it takes women longer to get in the mood. Men can move more or less directly from watching football to having sex but women are much more aware of setting, surroundings and mood. They need to be romanced a little and have more transition time.Slow everything down. Begin your seduction on the sofa, dedicate time to kissing, undress slowly - the more time you spend working her up into a lather the better, for both of you.

Use kind words
Since women respond more to verbal rather than visual stimuli, talking is one of the best ways to arouse a woman. It's also a way of letting your partner know that she can take all the time she needs. During foreplay, women are often thinking about how they look, whether they can please you, whether they're desirable. And here are the three best words you can say to a woman during foreplay: Take your time. It may sound stupid, but you're giving her permission to relax and enjoy herself. It's effective, and she'll appreciate you for saying it.

Ignore the obvious goal
A main complaint women make about men's approach to foreplay is we're too genital-orientated. What men should remember is that women require more non-genital , whole-body-touching sex. Gentle touching is evidence to her that he cares about her as a person. She needs that before she can become fully aroused. Make a pact with yourself that for a full ten minutes you won't even go near her vagina. Concentrate instead on the other nerve rich areas of her body such as the breasts, mouth, neck, armpits, buttocks and earlobes.

Learn to tease
Anticipation is a powerful aphrodisiac. Here's one trick that will work brilliantly for both of you: lie on your side facing your partner, with the tip of your penis just touching the entrance of her vagina. This allows you to kiss, fondle her breasts and stroke her buttocks while gently teasing her with your penis. Resist the urge to penetrate, though, until she wants, or hopefully begs you to.
Know her body
After all these years studying the female body you might think you know it inside out. But here's a three-minute masterclass.
While we might enjoy them, only one in ten women actively play with them during masturbation, so don't automatically expect her to respond to your attentive breast worship. She certainly won't respond kindly to it just before her period - this is when they are at their most tender.
If they're not erect yet, don't clamp or twist them. Instead, use the flat of your palm to rub her entire breast in a circular motion. Start lightly and increase the pressure as she becomes excited. Once they are firm, take them between two wet fingers and slide back and forth. Don't squeeze.
This bud of concentrated nerve endings is a lot more sensitive to touch than the penis, so don't bash or tweak it too hard with your fingers. And don't plunge a finger deep into the vagina - most women find this a real turn-off, not to mention uncomfortable.
These are much more sensitive than the outer ones, especially if stroked along their inner surface. In one sex survey 84 per cent of women masturbated by stroking them, along with the clitoris.
Men, particularly those in long-standing relationships, tend to forget how pleasurable kissing is. Instead, it becomes nothing more than a signal that says "I want sex now", says sex therapist Lonnie Barbach. Next thing you know, you're limiting kissing because you don’t want your partner to assume it's a prelude to sex.

Escape this downward spiral by kissing her more throughout the day. Then, when it does come to sex, make sure kissing is at the forefront of your foreplay. Use your tongue to explore her entire body and be gentle. Remember - many women would like less tongue. Try instead to use the tip of it to play with the tip of hers.

Get an A in oral
For a polished performance try these simple tricks:

A pillow under your partner's rear end provides better access to her genitals.

Put your hand on her perineum, the area between the vagina and the anus, and press or massage it. It's one of the most erogenous zones for women.

The clitoris responds best to constant, gentle vibration. A good way to achieve this is to hum quietly as you lick her. A well hummed aria can push some women into orgasmic orbit.

Most men simply work their way down a woman's body - mouth, breasts, belly-button, and so on.
But look at it from her point of view: if she knows exactly where you're taking her the journey's no fun. Whisk her off on a mystery tour instead:

Her eyelids, inner thighs, the backs of her knees, behind her earlobes, and the tops of her breasts (not her nipples).


Add pressure with the tip of your tongue.

It's probably the only time she'll enjoy catching a chill.

Keep your kit on
When you were a teenager you were probably fully clothed for much of the sex you had. Not only was this necessary (other partygoers wanted to use the toilet), it was fun.
Once there's no one to catch us in the act, though, we're all too eager to strip off and get down to business, which automatically speeds up foreplay.

Instead, take time to peel off - and make the most of the clothes you've still got on. One oral sex variation is to go down on your partner when they're still wearing underwear. Reach under the material with your tongue, push it to one side for access or pull it off with your teeth."

Be corny
Here's a final rule: if it feels corny, do it. That applies to both men and women, but in different ways. For women, it feels corny to dress up in lingerie or costumes, but men find it very stimulating. By the same token, the things that men feel corny doing - lavishing compliments on their women, snuggling and cuddling, waiting on them hand and foot - are highly effective forms of foreplay. Many men say they don't know what to do to make their partners happy. They just can't imagine doing or saying it. If you feel embarrassed saying something, you now know that it's probably the thing that'll make her day.


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