Foreplay Guide for Women
women think men fall down on foreplay because
they're clumsy, selfish or orgasm-obsessed.
Studies show that women are as much at fault
for not communicating their own needs. Many
women still have a great deal of difficulty
in communicating what they want and need sexually
- if she doesn't know what she wants, his
chances of satisfying her are greatly reduced.You
don't have to tell him where to put his fingers,
where to blow and what to lick, but guiding
with your hands works wonders.
One of the most common complaints from men
when it comes to sex is that women don't grab
the penis firmly enough when handling it;
they treat the man's genitals as gingerly
as they do their own. If you're unsure what's
firm and what's painful, get your partner
to place his hands around yours while you
masturbate him and allow him to adjust the
pressure. The same goes for playing with a
man's testicles. They may not be as delicate
as you think.
Stimulate his G spot
The good news is he does have a G-spot. The
bad news? You'll need to insert a lubricated
finger into his bottom to find it. If you
do this and press towards the front of his
body you should be able to feel a small knot.
This is the prostate gland and, for many men,
having it massaged or stroked can intensify
orgasm. There is another way to get to it,
though. The area just below the testicles
that leads to the anus is extremely sensitive
to touch and can deepen the degree of sensation,
particularly if pressed lightly. By doing
this you're essentially massaging his prostate
Give him something to see
Letting your partner watch you masturbate
is one of the most intimate sexual acts you
can share with someone. But letting him see
how you stimulate yourself works on two levels.
Not only does it give him the best possible
lesson in how to arouse you, it will pander
to his need for visual stimulation. To charge
this scene even further, tell him that he
can watch but not touch, or create a fantasy
scene where he's spying on you without your
Women have traditionally felt more uncomfortable
about talking dirty, times are changing. Women
no longer swoon at obscenity. And this represents
a great change for relationships that women
can feel free to express intimate sexual feelings.This
is all the permission you need to describe
in detail what you're doing, what you're about
to do and what you'd love him to do to you.
Men love running commentaries.
Feed his eyes
The older your partner, is the more likely
foreplay is going to be an important part
of sex for him too. But here's something you
should know: he might want to use more pornography
in his foreplay. Older men are more quickly
aroused by the visual than they are even by
manual stimulation of the genitals, If you
don't like the idea of looking at pornography
together, make the prelude to sex a real performance
and allow him to look at your body, try dressing
up, anything that provides a little extra
Open the toy box
The majority of sex toys are bought and used
by women but that doesn't mean you have to
keep them all to yourself. Vibrators are generally
associated with women, but men can enjoy them
too. If you have a vibrator, draw it up and
down the shaft of his penis, under his testicles
and against his nipples, before getting him
to experiment with it on you.
You'll never be able to pull his pud better
than he can but don't let that stop you trying.
Here's a few tips to help you on your way...
If your partner has a foreskin, gently pull
it back as far as it will go and hold it there
while you stroke the shaft with your other
hand - this can heighten penile sensitivity.
Try this during oral sex too.
ADD A LITTLE TWIST
For extra sensation incorporate a slight twist
to your downward stroke. You can do the same
during oral sex by tilting your head and rotating
HAVE A SWELL TIME
Move your hand firmly down the shaft of the
penis and when you reach the base squeeze
tightly. This temporarily prevents blood flowing
back out of the penis, causing it to swell
and increasing the sensitivity of the head.
FIND HIS FRENULUM
The frenulum, the little piece of skin connecting
the shaft to the head of the penis (on the
underside), is the most sensitive part of
his organ. Flick this area with your tongue
during oral sex or gently rub it with a lubricated
finger during masturbation.
TRY DIFFERENT TEXTURES
Experiment with a few different textures against
his penis - a silk hanky, talc, honey, a leather
glove or sandpaper. Well, maybe not the sandpaper,
but you get the idea.
Be a tease
The reason men don't like foreplay is that
they're mental sprinters; totally focused
on the finishing line. What you need to do
is slow him down by putting a few hurdles
in his way. Work your way down his body, giving
him a total-body tongue-bath but avoiding
his genitals at all costs. The objective?
To make and keep him hard for as long as possible
without actually touching the penis. He'll
appreciate the wait.
Three tips for fantastic fellatio...
Clever women let gravity carry their saliva
down a lover's penis, They can also use it
as a lubricant for pumping the bottom part
of the penis with one hand while doing the
upper part by mouth.
BLOW HOT AND COLD
Altering the temperature of your mouth can
make oral sex even more interesting for him.
Try sucking ice cubes or sipping a hot drink
before you go down on him. Better still, alternate
hot and cold in one session.
MAKE EYE CONTACT
The opening at the tip of the penis is also
worth exploring with your tongue. Gently open
it by squeezing the head of his penis with
your finger and thumb.
There, that should do it! :-)