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Foreplay Guide for Women

Give directions
Some women think men fall down on foreplay because they're clumsy, selfish or orgasm-obsessed. Studies show that women are as much at fault for not communicating their own needs. Many women still have a great deal of difficulty in communicating what they want and need sexually - if she doesn't know what she wants, his chances of satisfying her are greatly reduced.You don't have to tell him where to put his fingers, where to blow and what to lick, but guiding with your hands works wonders.

Be firm
One of the most common complaints from men when it comes to sex is that women don't grab the penis firmly enough when handling it; they treat the man's genitals as gingerly as they do their own. If you're unsure what's firm and what's painful, get your partner to place his hands around yours while you masturbate him and allow him to adjust the pressure. The same goes for playing with a man's testicles. They may not be as delicate as you think.

Stimulate his G spot
The good news is he does have a G-spot. The bad news? You'll need to insert a lubricated finger into his bottom to find it. If you do this and press towards the front of his body you should be able to feel a small knot. This is the prostate gland and, for many men, having it massaged or stroked can intensify orgasm. There is another way to get to it, though. The area just below the testicles that leads to the anus is extremely sensitive to touch and can deepen the degree of sensation, particularly if pressed lightly. By doing this you're essentially massaging his prostate externally.

Give him something to see
Letting your partner watch you masturbate is one of the most intimate sexual acts you can share with someone. But letting him see how you stimulate yourself works on two levels. Not only does it give him the best possible lesson in how to arouse you, it will pander to his need for visual stimulation. To charge this scene even further, tell him that he can watch but not touch, or create a fantasy scene where he's spying on you without your knowledge.

Talk dirty
Women have traditionally felt more uncomfortable about talking dirty, times are changing. Women no longer swoon at obscenity. And this represents a great change for relationships that women can feel free to express intimate sexual feelings.This is all the permission you need to describe in detail what you're doing, what you're about to do and what you'd love him to do to you. Men love running commentaries.

Feed his eyes
The older your partner, is the more likely foreplay is going to be an important part of sex for him too. But here's something you should know: he might want to use more pornography in his foreplay. Older men are more quickly aroused by the visual than they are even by manual stimulation of the genitals, If you don't like the idea of looking at pornography together, make the prelude to sex a real performance and allow him to look at your body, try dressing up, anything that provides a little extra eye candy.

Open the toy box
The majority of sex toys are bought and used by women but that doesn't mean you have to keep them all to yourself. Vibrators are generally associated with women, but men can enjoy them too. If you have a vibrator, draw it up and down the shaft of his penis, under his testicles and against his nipples, before getting him to experiment with it on you.

Perfect masturbation
You'll never be able to pull his pud better than he can but don't let that stop you trying. Here's a few tips to help you on your way...

If your partner has a foreskin, gently pull it back as far as it will go and hold it there while you stroke the shaft with your other hand - this can heighten penile sensitivity. Try this during oral sex too.

For extra sensation incorporate a slight twist to your downward stroke. You can do the same during oral sex by tilting your head and rotating your tongue.

Move your hand firmly down the shaft of the penis and when you reach the base squeeze tightly. This temporarily prevents blood flowing back out of the penis, causing it to swell and increasing the sensitivity of the head.


The frenulum, the little piece of skin connecting the shaft to the head of the penis (on the underside), is the most sensitive part of his organ. Flick this area with your tongue during oral sex or gently rub it with a lubricated finger during masturbation.

Experiment with a few different textures against his penis - a silk hanky, talc, honey, a leather glove or sandpaper. Well, maybe not the sandpaper, but you get the idea.

Be a tease
The reason men don't like foreplay is that they're mental sprinters; totally focused on the finishing line. What you need to do is slow him down by putting a few hurdles in his way. Work your way down his body, giving him a total-body tongue-bath but avoiding his genitals at all costs. The objective? To make and keep him hard for as long as possible without actually touching the penis. He'll appreciate the wait.

Head girl
Three tips for fantastic fellatio...

Clever women let gravity carry their saliva down a lover's penis, They can also use it as a lubricant for pumping the bottom part of the penis with one hand while doing the upper part by mouth.

Altering the temperature of your mouth can make oral sex even more interesting for him. Try sucking ice cubes or sipping a hot drink before you go down on him. Better still, alternate hot and cold in one session.

The opening at the tip of the penis is also worth exploring with your tongue. Gently open it by squeezing the head of his penis with your finger and thumb.

There, that should do it! :-)

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